Too lazy to lie...

Did you know that sometimes lying could be a sign of being noble and brave, and many a times it’s far easier and less painful to be honest. Many people tell the truth and get away with it cos they simply don't have to keep thinking what story they had made up last time. The truth never changes so it wouldn't be too difficult to remember would it?

I mean honestly is there really something great about being honest. Think about it, many a times when you admit that there is a certain flaw in you and can manage to take it when someone else says the same, people simply cannot tease you. I mean it's easier to pull someone’s leg when someone is lying or hiding something, if you come clear with something there isn't much fun in ranting on and on about something that's already been accepted by the person concerned. People simply lose interest, no mystery you see.

So you see when you lie, especially for unselfish reasons it is difficult to maintain it. What happens when you are entrusted with the deepest secrets of your friends who trust you not to leak out information about themselves or may ask you to lead the others on a false trail. Can you imagine how hard that would be? Or keeping information from someone simply because if he/she gets to know about it, it would harm him/her. In these cases wouldn't it be so much easier to simply tell the truth and throw the burden away from our shoulder.

I mean when you lie you constantly have to remember what you said, also one has to keep looking over one's shoulder in case one needs to speak the truth as a relief. quite reminds me of a guy who wants to pee badly and looks around a selected deserted place just in case there aren't people watching cos though he knows there is no toilet around and he doesn't have a choice for he needs that release, he isn't doing the right thing.

Ooo the constant headache!! It’s far better to face the immediate consequences than delay it for some other time while spoiling your sleep.

So kudos to all those who lie and can keep up a lie, it's tough work really, I won’t say I don't tell white lies one time too many but then if things stretch I simply come out with the truth, sorry boss too lazy to think of creative lies really, plus I definitely need that sweet sleep by the end of the night, don’t u??

Crime in 55 words

Murder she wrote, murder it was.

The motive was right but the time was not.

I was sure it could be the husband.

It all fit.

But how did she manage to write on the mirror?

Time, it didn’t fit.

I was outside. I heard it.

Wait, did I say that aloud?

Shit, everyone’s looking.

The BIG 3-'O'

I know some people might find this to be too early for me to think on these terms..and yet I feel it isn't too far off...

what truly got to me though was a girl's post called

The Adventures of a 20-Something Year Old

It spoke about the emotional risks we take in our 20's that somehow are far more dangerous than the risks we take on a physical level...

And that got me thinking...what if I one day got up and turned 30...had a family where I wasn't the child anymore...what then....

I looked back through the last couple of years of my life and realised that I've had a luxury not many could have...even at my age...I guess its because of who I am and how my parents understand me...

I've had the luxuries to shift my ambitions of being a commerce grad to a child psychologist to a journalist to a literature professor to an editor in a publication house....to currently a teacher cum researcher in various methodologies of education...

And lord knows what comes next..

I've had my friends who've questioned my jumps....I've had them wonder why I never quite focus...but somehow I shift along with a confidence, knowing that there is this safety net right beneath me...and however old I am...and I am quite ahead in my 20's...that net would remain...

and then it strikes me...

in a few years the roles would be reversed...or at least it will from my part...a few years and I would be that safety net...I would be looking after that someone who would have ambitions ...and if she/he is anything like me.. would have that urge to jump around trying everything... unconsciously knowing that I'd be down there holding that net no matter what...

ok STOPPPPPP halt and REVERSE .....

like always I never end up writing my posts on what I plan to begin it with in the first place....but this time I will....

the BIG 3-O... I have almost 5 years before that number knocks on my door...and somehow it got me thinking about the risks I took during my 20's ... risks of the heart and career paths....I've jumped around as I pleased and took chances where I knew I might fall and hurt myself...despite that safety net below me...

and yet it got me thinking...however deep I may fall...it would always be a fall I would take...

I and no one else...and so it gave me the freedom to pick up the pieces of my heart or pride or whatever got shattered in the process and jump up and walk again....

but what when life fast forwards into my 30's...??? life would have to be trodden with care...the stakes would rise...so high that one wrong step would just not pull you down but it would bring all that along with you which you may never be able to pick up after the mess you made...

good lord I sound like a girl with 4 long lives lived behind her.... and yet I can't seem to shake this feeling off....

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii saaxy.........i love u....

It's been a while since i've been pondering to write on this topic...actually i won't be writing much...i just wanna add a few interesting mails i receive now and then....

As sure as I know that the girls can empathise with me...I also know the guys maybe clueless...but these are a few interesting messages i have received in the last few months...unfortunately this idea struck me only a couple of months back...there were some classics i deleted which were 'must reads' especially on orkut..but i can't seem to access my account there since a long time...nehow since i have to make do with the ones i have...and since i never could quite reply to em y dnt u try n help me out...(though a few of my daring frenz do manage that) sadly m no sherin but...here goes....

first the ok sorts..

Abhi Kapoor http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001186813235 June 12 at 10:17pm

do beautiful ppl make new freinds...if they do then just rem i m in the que

ਬਿਕ੍ਰਮ੍ਜੀਤ ਸਿੰਘ ਸਹ੍ਨਿhttp://www.facebook.com/onepunjabi June 27 at 7:19pm

nice id pic very expressive liked it.....

Rakesh Adnani July 1 at 4:18pm Report

hey!are u the one from kishan sir's batch in buskers?u have changed so much...ur really looking...gorgeous!

lolzzz...this guy removed his profile i guess...but i think he had erm 15 friends all off them girls guess they were all with kishan sir :P.....gawdddddddd........dnt people have better things to do :|

ok now they get wierder...

:P

Deepak Saroha http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000916548089 September 23 at 1:57pm

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii chashmis kya dekh rhi ho

...chasmis really :P.......

Naren Singh http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001037006406 September 25 at 12:41am

hi aashi ur pic looks soo cool im 27m from delhi can we be frnds nd let me know more about u what ru doing .........

Randhir Raj Sharma http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001301545192 September 28 at 9:46am

Locking So Sweet

lol...for debz n mango....read - rape of the lock ;)

Vishal Rajput http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001630729707 September 28 at 8:44pm

hi Aashi mam how r u can u talk to me

i can my dear...but i wont :P....and where r ur punctuations m'dear...now now since i am mam... ;)

Shahji Ji http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000881714529 October 2 at 7:36pm

Hi Aashi kaisi ho I Love U

ah yes....my first i love you after so many months.....i was wondering what made me stop look...err..lockin lovable :P.. ;)

and a new one...(this is minus the 5 other hi's and wanna be frenzz msgs) :P

Abhishek Bhullar

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000310664369 November 2 at 11:25pm Report

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

wow aswm pica

lukng realy g'gous

it all began with "kya aap mere saath FRAANDSHIP karengi" ...n now well they cum up with newer things....how adorable....

lol.........

i dunno how ya'll will react 2 this...but i must say boys...(though the male population is far gr8r than the female population....n well sum go ahead and have polygamy even then.....) u really need 2 stop this.....obviously the load of u hv made fake profiles...but wats the point of this really???????.......newyz...do share ne interesting "eternal luv" promises and fraanship msgs u get here......and if u can...pls get those ppl 2 read this... :P

with luv....

chasmis :P

P.S.

HERE ARE SOME CLASSIC CONTRIBUTIONS BY MY FRENZ ON THIS TOPIC...NJOY..

;)

FRIEND 1:

hahaha brilliant!! And yes, my sincere sympathies..!

Would love to share my 'awesome' experiences..:P Apart from the usual 'u r lookin cute' ..' ur b;ful' and all that nonsense..the most recent are :

Subject: Hello

Facebook has recommended me to add you as my friend. Wondering if we know each other?

hey ay hii *name*

this mounis here...

what do ya do messy???? ;)

the worse so far has been:

"Subject: U r really worth a second look!

Hey, I wanna b ur comfort. wud u lik to hav it or leav it?"

Wth lol These are the recent onez on FB..Orkut, well..I havent checked my acct for the past 4 months. Guys dont get it that these random msgs are very irritating and some 'compliments' are jst not in good taste. Anyway, I like this note! haha

FRIEND 2:

hahahhhaaa.......this is too good!!! me likey it!!!:D

ok....here are a couple of funny ones in my inbox.....

1. Hey *name* =)

wana make frendshp wid me ?

now sumbody plz tell me how do we 'make' frendship??..so that I can 'make' more and more of it...;)

ok..and this one takes the cake:

"hi i am Tanveer and i am completely impressed after looking at your profile and cool beautiful picture .......well now my only compliment to you is that god was completely free when u got produced and your simple beautiful gift to earth.......and who so ever got you as his wife he will be really very lucky........now i am here just to move forward my hand for friendship well this all depends upon your wish u may accept or reject but one thing i know very well all person who has born are made for some special reason and so may be we got interacted with each other and may be this could be the god wish .......and so if u get me chance then you will be always happy with this decision as i am really very funny guy down to earth and also helping hand and know real meaning of friendship and worth of friends so if u strongly believe in destiny then get me one chance ......may be we can have good company and good reasons to be friend so take everything positive all words really mean to me ..........

Regards

Tanveer"

looks like he's a dialogue writer for yash chopda or karan johar clan ;)

FRIEND 3:

hmmm......for me wen i used to have hermione's dp.....1 fellow had msgd me..

..hey hermione remember im your ron...

.lolzz :d:d

FRIEND 4:

Hye hii gal hwz ya

Well jus wana 2 tell u tht u were lukin oouucch in ur pic MashAllah ;)

Tc

Hf

Beii "

do i look so painfull? :o

Between You and Sajid Farhan

01 July at 15:55 Report

u r great babo

what does babo mean? :P

one more

"i noe , itz like yew aint noe me , niether do i , juz wanted to add yew up so did i ...

hope yew aint gawt ny objection wit dat ??

wud realy like to add yew up as ma frnd , buh dunnu wether, is diz the correct way ov approachin yew ...

n besidez , itz the cycle , that people from being strangahz becum frnz , thatz how it iz ryte ...

nywayz rest is upto yew

dont worry , i aint trynna hit on yew ;) "

another one with the title

"stranger iz no more danger.."

u look beautiful in ur pro pic.. Hope u dont mind me saying u as u know i am a stranger.. :P

"cn u send me add request. BecoZ diz bLoOdY FaCeBook haS BlocKed My FRnDrEq. SO plZ SEnd me FraNd rEqueSt "

fb finally.. gettin sense! :P

FRIEND 5:

me tell you one...

hi grogeous were do ya stay?

I wanted to reply mars...but couldn't risk disclosing my secret :P

FRIEND 6:

Mohammed Saad Mohiuddin November 1 at 4:31pm Report

i noe , itz like yew aint noe me , niether do i , juz wanted to add yew up so did i ...

hope yew aint gawt ny objection wit dat ??

wud realy like to add yew up as ma frnd , buh dunnu wether, is diz the correct way ov approachin yew ...

n besidez , itz the cycle , that people from being strangahz becum frnz , thatz how it iz ryte ...

nywayz rest is upto yew

dont worry , i aint trynna hit on yew ;)

i wud hav sent yew a frnd request , buh this facebuk thinggy suckz...

cuz it allowz the frnd request to a certain limit ... n i dunnu itz screwed up'

I am better off alone

what the hell is wrong with people...

suddenly this individuality aspect of people is simply creeping me out....how the hell did we become this way...i mean i wont blame random people rather i'll do that on meself..i mean how many times have i been on the phone talkin to some random person while i have soo many frenz nearby who need me...and to whom i talk to more on the phone than in person when we finally attain some distance..

yeye i know its a clichéd topic but this whole individuality thing has started freaking me out (or maybe i just hate admitting that age has started creeping up on me)...

anyhow am trying to have a group work done and somehow we cant work together...no nobody hates the other...but its like group work is encroaching upon so much of 'me-time' that its become more of a nuisance to the lot of us rather than the awesome assignment we had thought of it to begin with...

at least i'd speak for myself when i say that what began as a dream project is now just turning out to be a fight for decent grades...what the hell happened to the rosy "Larger Picture"

am sorry i may sound like i am rambling at the moment ..maybe i am ...but this whole darn things gotten me so riled up that i just want to spit it out...

nehow this is my problem... but i am more than sure that you too have in sumway or another dealt with such issues...

i haven't a clue as to what the solution should be but at this very moment i'd do anything for one...

well i guess i should go back to my phone now...was supposed to be calling this old fren of mine i haven't spoken to in months..

toodles...